Thanks to the likes of the hugely successful reality show RuPaul’s Drag Race, the fabulous FX drama Pose and some eye-opening insider documentaries (search for Beautiful by Night and Beneath the Makeup), western audiences are becoming familiar with the nuances of the trans drag queen scene.
A world once so foreign – previously treated as an unknowably exotic, tragic or comic marginal society – is now, more than ever, open for visitors. The battle for general acceptance has not been won – we’re as far from a consensus welcome as we are from picnicking on Mars. But the increasing embrace of LGBTQ stories, as diverse and complicated as those of the nuclear family, is getting us closer.
With their characterful and colourful memoir ‘Unicorn’, Iraqi writer Amrou Al-Kadhi – raised in a strict Muslim family in Dubai and Bahrain – adds a revelatory voice to the mix; the voice of a noisy Muslim ‘they’ who was once a confused cowed ‘he’.
Their book opens with a recollection of an Edinburgh Fringe gig, where a front-row cluster of hijab-wearing Muslim women frown and murmur throughout their blasphemous high-camp performance, which includes a call to prayer/Lady Gaga mash-up and a sketch comparing men praying in mosques to ‘gay chemsex orgies’.
The women request a meeting after the show which, clad in a sequin leotard and with a ‘melting face of sapphire glitter’, Al-Kadhi dutifully attends, riddled with anxiety. There, a floor-gazing Saudi ‘super Muslim’ mother tells them “You were amazing and… you should be really proud.”
The significance of this moment, which leaves Amrou sobbing convulsively, becomes increasingly clear as the story of their childhood unfolds. As a young boy they have a dependent, Proustian relationship with their mother, emotionally dependent on her “maternal clutch”. She is “the light and love of my life”. A small act of accidental transgression, borne of innocence (“Mama, should I get us a condom?”) sees this previously doting mother turn on Amrou with such ferocity her son is left in despairing, baffled shock.